A broken heart is perhaps that most difficult thing in this world to fix. It takes time... it cannot be replaced in an instant... and once we do find a way to restore it, it'll never be the same again.
Is there life after a broken heart? I honestly believe there is. It may not be easy to put the pieces back together, but it's also not impossible.
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Face the Pain.
Some of us are afraid to acknowledge the pain we are going through. We deny that we've been hurt, for pain will only confirm the reality that we have lost someone.
We need to give ourselves time to face our pain. Cry it out. Express in ways that can help such as writing in a journal. Find a trusted confidante to talk to. But ofcourse, what's important is not to let depression get the better of us by losing control of our emotions.
Though we acknowledge that this is part of the process of healing, try not to prolong this stage. Once we have accepted that we have been hurt, release the pain and decide to let go.
Learn to love again - start by loving ourselves.
The best way to start is to open up ourselves to love again - start by rebuilding our self-worth, confidence and dignity as an individual. A broken relationship can shatter our world and put us down. But in order to start picking up the pieces, we need to make a decision to get back on track and learn from the experience.
Avoid making a list of what we have done wrong... making a mental note of all the "what could have beens"... or blaming ourselves for everything.
No matter whose fault it is, it takes two to make a relationship work. Even if we do know for sure that we are to blame, our faults shouldn't bring us down, but should give us the strength to change and strive to be a better person.
Surround ourselves with people who can fill up our life with love.
Even if we lose one person's love, it's not the end of the world. There are people who continue to care, to love and to give importance to us - our family and friends. Let us not detach ourselves from people who wants to reach out to us and affirm us of their presence.
Our world cannot revolve around one person - even if that person means the world to us.
Live... discover ways to love our life inspite of the pain. Decide to live in the present. Learn from the past in order to make the most of today.
Forgive... both ourselves and the person who caused us pain. A heart that is willing to forgive is a heart that can be ready to trust again. Forgiveness will set us free - free from anger, resentment, bitterness and pain. Forgiveness will also open ourselves to learn to love again.
Let Go and Let God.
To let go and to let God means that we are completely surrendering our pain to God and trusting that He knows whats best. There is no pain so great that God cannot heal. No heart so broken that He cannot restore... no life so empty that he cannot refill.
A relationship destined by God - if it's His will ... if it's His ultimate plan... nothing can ever break it apart. In any relationship blessed by God, the love will always be greater than the pain. A relationship that is written and authored by God will always find reasons to be strong amidst the pain.
Trust in God's plan for your love life.
"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." - Psalm 147:3
God is always ready to heal those who are willing to be healed. It may be a difficult process - it requires time, perseverance, commitment, dedication and faith.
But it will definitely be worth it! Once the right relationship comes, we will become stronger individuals who are not afraid to love. And we will have new and restored hearts to give to the one who truly deserves it.