Is There Life After a Broken Heart?
A broken heart is perhaps one of the most difficult things in this world to fix. It takes time. It cannot be replaced in an instant. And once we find a way to restore it, it may never be exactly the same again.
Is there life after a broken heart?
I honestly believe there is.
It may not be easy to put the pieces back together, but it is also not impossible.
Face the Pain
Some of us are afraid to acknowledge the pain we are going through. We deny that we have been hurt because pain only confirms the reality that we have lost someone.
We need to give ourselves time to face our pain. Cry it out. Express it in ways that can help, such as writing in a journal. Find a trusted confidante to talk to.
But, of course, what is important is not to let our emotions take control of us. Acknowledge that this is part of the healing process, but try not to stay in this stage for too long.
Once we have accepted that we have been hurt, we need to release the pain and decide to let go.
Learn to Love Again—Start by Loving Ourselves
The best way to start is to open ourselves to love again by rebuilding our self-worth, confidence, and dignity as individuals.
A broken relationship can shatter our world and bring us down. But in order to start picking up the pieces, we need to make a decision to get back on track and learn from the experience.
Avoid making a list of everything we have done wrong. Avoid making a mental note of all the “what could have beens.” And most of all, avoid blaming ourselves for everything.
No matter whose fault it is, it takes two to make a relationship work. Even if we know for sure that we are partly to blame, our mistakes should not bring us down. Instead, they should give us the strength to change and strive to become better people.
Surround Ourselves with People Who Fill Our Lives with Love
Even if we lose one person's love, it is not the end of the world.
There are people who continue to care, love us, and remind us of our worth—our family and friends. Let us not detach ourselves from the people who want to reach out to us and remind us that they are there.
Our world cannot revolve around one person, even if that person means the world to us.
Live. Forgive.
Live. Discover ways to love our life despite the pain. Decide to live in the present. Learn from the past so we can make the most of today.
Forgive. Forgive both ourselves and the person who caused us pain. A heart that is willing to forgive is a heart that can learn to trust again.
Forgiveness sets us free—from anger, resentment, bitterness, and pain. It also opens our hearts to the possibility of loving again.
Let Go and Let God
To let go and let God means completely surrendering our pain to Him and trusting that He knows what is best.
There is no pain so great that God cannot heal. No heart so broken that He cannot restore. No life so empty that He cannot fill again.
A relationship destined by God—if it is His will and part of His plan—cannot be easily broken apart. In any relationship blessed by God, love will always be greater than the pain. A relationship written and authored by God will always find reasons to remain strong, even in the midst of difficulties.
Trust in God's plan for your love life.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3
God is always ready to heal those who are willing to be healed.
It may be a difficult process. It requires time, perseverance, commitment, dedication, and faith.
But it will definitely be worth it.
Because when the right relationship comes, we will become stronger individuals who are no longer afraid to love. And we will have new and restored hearts to give to the one who truly deserves them.
